Never return to burn (26 February 2014)

One client was recently casting back to the past; if only she'd taken that job, if only she'd stayed with that boyfriend, if only she'd...... well, you get the picture. People often seem to reach this stage; life is pretty hard now, and different decisions earlier might have made the difference.

These are called "regrets", folks; and drain energy and positivism! Easy to say, and it is true; everyone, if they are honest, has some regrets. But, as wise old Omar Khayyam said: The Moving finger writes; and, having writ, moves on: nor all thy Piety nor Wit shall lure it back to cancel half a Line, nor all thy Tears wash out a Word of it. So there you go; take heed to Coach Khayyam.

The message is: have regrets, but deal with them, and move on. Don't let them cast a shadow over NOW - because now is the time to take decisions and make yourself a different life. And don't go back; that previous job, for better or worse, is gone; and that old partner is different now. Look forward, and be excited; the past looks good, but it has gone.

As another favourite coach of mine said (hear the track), "I will never return to burn in that piss factory"

all the best

Graham - email: - tel: + (44) (0) 7890 360 806 - skype: tigercoaching1