J'accuse (15 July 2017)

Why? Why did you do that? Why?

or

What were your reasons for taking that action; can you tell me?

The same basic information is being sought in these two approaches; but the ways of asking for that information vary greatly. How would you feel when asked the question in the first way, as opposed to the second?

The first way has a sense of accusation, of aggression, even bullying; though none of these impressions may be meant. The second way is more neutral, less aggressive.

You may, indeed, mean to express frustration, to accuse, to show you've been hurt; but, if not, try the second approach, and maybe you'll get more cooperation!

all the best

Graham

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